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Being Good to Yourself

We can be our most critical voice or ourselves, more so than others.  Today I want to encourage you to be good to yourself.  Allowing that inner voice to dominate our more centered self results in a loss of confidence; that spark you intend to kindle. Instead, reflect daily on what you are grateful.  It can be something simple like a comment from a friend or colleague that shows their spirit.  It may not even be something that you agree with, but they show their passion and inner workings.  Be grateful. Recognize the time you have when you’re waiting for someone rather than being impatient.  How can you enjoy the moment or take some time for yourself while you’re waiting?

By taking time to be grateful, we allow ourselves to grow inside through patience, through being present entirely at the moment, by simply enjoying those around us.   I like to remind myself that those traits in others that frustrate me are present in me.  By checking our behavior, we help to determine if I am supporting or undermining my personal growth.   Work to be fully present, to enjoy the time we have. Now that I sit here healing, in pain, and trying to raise myself once again, I feel this strongly. I realize the gift that I have to enjoy being with my family in new ways, enjoyable conversations, and time to reflect and think about looking to the future with anticipation.

If we look to the future with apprehension, we close off our thinking and the relationships of others.  We start to compare ourselves to others and think, that should be me, or I should have had that contract, or I could have done that.  No, instead, feel towards the moment given.  How does it look?  Peaceful?  Who is around you, and what colors do they add to your life with their personality. I believe that in the end, what counts is, did we do our best?  Did we help others and add value to others?  Next week we will look at gratitude in more detail.

Indeed, a part of Being Good to Yourself has self-confidence!  Read this link to a stronger self-image here Approve of Yourself – Dr. Rich Patterson (pattersonphd.com)

The Huffington Post has some great material, and here is a link to one that you should read, 9 Ways To Be Good To Yourself — Starting Today | HuffPost Communities

Yours for a better you,

Rich